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Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Think before you speak?

I've been doing some soul-searching lately while reading the book, “How to Find God: Living Water for Those Who Thirst." One of the big things I need to work on is saying things in anger that I don't necessarily mean.

The problem is, sometimes the things we say can be difficult and even impossible to take back. We have the ability to do irreparable damage to our marriages and friendships with our words. Most women like to put the blame on men for speaking before they think, but truth be told, I think women are very guilty (if not more so) of this as well.

Learning to speak a language of love and respect might possibly be one of the hardest things you ever do, but if you keep in mind the consequence, there is definitely an incentive. Everyone will have disagreements. And, we have to admit that at some time or another our spouse/friend/coworkers have said something we thought was so stupid, so annoying, so rude, so insensitive, so petty, the list goes on and on, that we responded by using hurtful words towards them.

So, that being said I want to share with you something I was reading from this book. It's about refraining from idle speech.
Read Matthew 12:35-37. The verse preceding this text says, “For whatever is in your heart determines what you will say.” That right there says it all for me, if what you feel in your heart is what you say, you will always be refraining from insensitive remarks and idle speech.

When I was looking around on google, I found this cool 'rule' to apply before you speak:

THINK

T- Is it true?

H-Is it helpful?

I-Is it inspiring?

N-Is it necessary?

K-Is it kind?